Hopefully your not crazy enough to go too far down that list.
I do know a lot of people who do start down that list, in fact most people start down it, nearly everyone starts down it; but most stop at about 'broken stuff' and move out never to see or speak to the other person again. Many begin to get that "Once bitten Twice scarred" mentality and trust less and less and less though their life; they become more and more and more cynical. And then they say that they have 'lived' they have a lot of 'expiriance' and that is why they are cynical and full of hate. But really, they have chosen to make their life difficult in a lot of ways. They could have made it easier on themselves, though perhaps not great simply because they had rotten fortune. And this is another topic but why do we only consider evil expireances to be true experiances? Someone who hasn't been in countless despicable situations is considerd "sheltered" and "unexperianced".... Hm.
Anyway, here is a scenario:
A person has a home, but needs a new roommate to be able to pay the bills. So she advertises for a roommate and even specifies some personal characteristics she would like to see in this said individual. She eventually finds a roommate and everything is going just peachy. Or, as peachy as they allow it to get.
One day Roommate "A" (the original renter) decides to go on a vacation for a week so she packs up her stuff and leaves. While she is gone, Roommate "B" (the new person) decides she wants to use the internet. She discovers that the network they have set up for the home is based on "A"s computer, it has to be on and logged in for the internet to work, her's is the network administering computer. So "B" calls "A" And asks for her password so that she can use the internet. "A" refuses to give her the password to her computer. She has financial information and important work on her computer, so this is perfectly understandable, but "B" is still understandably pissed off. She should have the right to the internet, right? But "A" has a right to her privacy.
When "A" returns from her vacation, things are no longer peachy. There is a great amount of tension. But instead of working on it, finding a solution so that this doesn't happen in the future and attempting to become 'peachy' again, they each fume. Things get worse, cops are involved, things break, things are stolen, people move away and the world is filled with more hate than it once had.
All because they would not compromise. I don't think that Roommate "A" ever stated that her new roommate had to be a doormat and a second-class tenant of the house, but she probably didn't say that Roommate "B" would be given more governing power.
Equality is something that people seem to have an uncommon difficulty with. Maybe that's why we are so bad at math. Really, living with people doesn't have to be quite as hard as you imagine or make it out to be if you don't insist on being the monarch of the house. Social living is where democracy and communism really shine. I have had my fair share of roommate troubles, I had one who totalled an antique, old-fashioned, square box, 1985 NES; and he broke the neck on my guitar (I was able to fix this); and busted down my door. This does not prevent me from trusting future roommates, just him. I still buy community food where ever I live. Anything I buy, the other tenants are allowed to eat.
And I have not had as much difficulty as most. Perhaps there is a larger correlation.
Compromise, essentially, is a very important skill. Living with People gives you a lot of practice. And besides, whats really the worst that's going to happen if you are rational? You'll lose a few things. But that's just part of life's journey. Learn a little and try not to be too cynical. There aren't a lot of people who wake up in the morning and say: "I think I'm going to be mean and evil. Yep. That sounds like fun." No one is intentionally evil, though they are often selfish and commit concious acts of meanness and crime.
Anyway, all in all, it's probably worth it.
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